Update On My Progress

Before I can give you an update, let me tell you more about myself. A few months ago my lady for 6yrs decides to move to another state, I was sad to see her go, I love and miss her, but it is what it is and life goes on.

So I decided it’s the perfect time to pursue learning the Pickup Arts. All of my previous girlfriends I’ve met through social circles like family, friends, school and work. I could never just approach a woman I was attracted to and have a conversation with her. Just the thought of it would give me anxiety. In my short journey so far, I feel I have made a lot of progress.

I began this adventure by joining the local lair and starting this blog to chronicle my adventures. The lair had an event known as a Approach A Thon. This was a life changing event for me, I had a blast and experienced for the first time the fun and joy of approaching women. I learned that you don’t need a whole lot of material to start approaching women, It’s just important to get started.

If you were to never read or learn anything about the pickup arts and just focused on approaching and meeting women, you would naturally get good and find success with the ladies. Think about it, lets say you approach a few girls for the first time, will it be awkward and will you be nervous? Most likely yes, but do you think it will still be awkward for you after a few hundred approaches? Of course not, once you have hundreds of approaches under your belt, meeting and connecting with women will be more natural. All it takes is a bit of practice. Since the AAT, I’ve made approaching and meeting women part of my everyday life.

My next sticking point was not knowing where to take the conversation after the approach and I’d end up ejecting from the set. I hit the Internet for some information on what to do after the approach. I came accross lots of routine based information, telling me word for word what to say.

I quickly learned I wouldn’t be able to remember these routines let alone deliver them authentically. After this realization I started leaning towards learning all about what is known as Natural Game which doesn’t use routines. Now I’m not knocking routines, each type of game has its place. My education in Natural Game has been with Cory Skyy, Vin DiCarlo, Tim from RSD and Carlos Xuma.

Applying what I’ve learned from these teachers has changed my life. Some of my results include having sex with the girl I met at the AAT, I’m currently seeing this 20 year old virgin, this hot bartender at a restaurant I frequent has been trying to meet up with me and a bunch of other fun stuff. Basically I’ve noticed more women in my life and a bunch more trying to be. But I’m still learning and can’t wait to share my new adventures.

Old Town’s Sun On The Beach

I went out with some family and friends to go see my cousin DJ at Old Town’s Sun On The Beach. For the most part I just hung out with the people I was with, I then noticed this cute girl with her friend making faces at these people dancing near them.

I approached and said, “you shouldn’t make faces at people it’s not nice”. She responded with a not so nice look on her face and said, “I wasn’t”. I then told them I was just being silly and that they both looked like fun. I then asked, “are you all fun?”

They then began to tell me how much fun they were and we all had a nice conversation. After a few minutes I told them I was going to go back and join my friends and maybe we would meet up later. While hanging out with my peoples I noticed the girls watching me, I decided to just stay and chill with my peoples though.

On the way to the rest room I walked by them and made a comment about how it looked like they weren’t having fun anymore, they responded by just laughing. On the way back I stopped and chit chatted with them for a little bit and then returned to my peoples.

The place was closing and the girls on there way out stopped and said bye to me. I waited for one of my friends to finish his drink and then we were on are way out. When we got outside I noticed the girls right outside the door, they approached me and asked if I could walk them to their hotel.

I asked what was going on at there hotel, they said not much because the other girl’s grandparents were there. I then said, “that don’t sound like fun” and I really didn’t want to go, but my friends insisted that we do and so I agreed. When we got to the hotel I asked if there was a pool, they said yeah and it’s open 24 hours. I suggested we all go swimming and they all agreed.

To make a long story short, while enjoying the pool and the people I was with, I felt like my friends were counter productive to my game.  I also felt they were a lot more into the girls then I was, so I decided to step aside and let them do there thing.

Pool Hall Practice Session 2

My friend and I hit the pool hall again, while playing darts the waitress I was flirting with last weekend approached and we talked a bit, she seemed attracted and all was going good till the bartenders called her away.

In the middle of a pool game my buddy went to get something to eat from a grease truck in the parking lot. While he was gone, I approached two women at the bar, a blond and a brunette and ask them if they were fun?

They were friendly and responsive right off the bat. I then had them join me for some pool. We were having fun playing and chit chatting a bit.

Then a couple of the brunettes friends showed up, I told the brunette to go join her friends. The blond stayed and we continued to play and flirt with each other. I had thoughts of isolating and escalating with her.

Unfortunately, my friend came back and she got distracted with her friends. Shortly after, my friend and I decided to call it a night.

Tabu Practice Session

I went to Tabu, a club in Downtown Orlando. My goals for the night were to have fun, approach women and create attraction. I approached my first set with the same material from the AAT. They had a hard time hearing me and weren’t very responsive.

After that I decided to switch up my game a bit. I focused a lot more on Kino and I approached with:

You seem like fun, are you? or I just complimented them on there sexiness.

I got more conversation out of asking them if they were fun, but still got lost on were to take the conversation. Telling them they looked sexy or gorgeous was pretty much hit or miss.

Between approaches I spent the night dancing with random chicks. I would of liked to create some attraction, I’m just not sure on how to do it. Even though I didn’t progress like I wanted to, it was still a fun night out.

Pool Hall Practice Session

I went out with friends to a pool hall. It just happened to be Latin night and a lot of beautiful women were in attendance. My goals for the night were to have fun, approach women and see how far I could take it.

I pretty much used the same material from the AAT. And for the most part, I got the same type of responses. I would open a set and chit chat a bit. Then, maybe throw in the ESP routine and/or the best friends test.

Followed by more small talk. And because I didn’t know were to take it next, I would then eject myself by telling them I should get back to my friends and maybe I would see them later.

What I would like to improve on, is creating attraction. I would also like to stop ejecting from sets.

Top Lair Approach-A-Thon

I just participated in my first Top Lair event, known as an Approach-A-Thon. It’s where they take a small number of new guys into the field and teach the basics of approaching. The two main purposes of this event are:

1. To give newbies a kick start and teach them that they don’t need a ton of material to start approaching.

2. To meet other guys for future winging.

This is my first attempt to learning this Pick-Up thing and I had a blast. The night before the event I was notified of the time and location. I was also told to memorize one opener and one funny story.

I spent that night and the whole next day, right up to the event memorizing and rehearsing my opener. I had know problem memorizing the opener but I thought it would be a bit tricky to deliver it because of it’s length.

We started off the night with a quick meeting and went over some of the basics of approaching. Then after a quick practice session, we split into pairs, an experience member with a less experience member.

By this time I couldn’t remember my opener. Cryo, my teacher for the night, taught me the WLM opener and a ESP routine. I don’t remember the details of each set. But the overall night went well.

I approached about 5 or 6 sets. The majority of the women were responsive, I had a couple girls interested and I got a phone #. Over all I felt the night was a success and I was inspired by the other PUA’s.