I received This Email From Sinn’s Of Attraction. I enjoyed it and wanted to share, I hope you find it useful:
Hey guys,
Today I’m going to be addressing something near and dear to my
heart. The learning process of pick up.
There are a lot of people giving out a lot of bad advice on how to
learn this stuff, so I want to make sure that I get my thoughts and
experiences out to you guys to help shorten your learning curves.
First let’s talk about the idea of a learning curve. A learning
curve is the specific personal path that you will need to take to
get to your goals. Everyone’s learning curves will be different.
For example a guy who’s 6′4, extremely good looking and works as a
movie producer, will have a significantly shorter learning curve
than a guy who’s 5′4 300lbs and unemployed. But both of these guys
can eventually get all the success they desire by following the
same basic rules for learning.
The first rule of learning pick-up, is that ALL real learning
happens in the field. You can theorize until you’re blue in the
face, but until you learn how to actually apply the theory in real
life, you haven’t actually learned anything. That’s why you want to
follow the 4:1 ratio of field time to reading. That means that for
every hour you read, you need to spend four hours actually
approaching. It doesn’t count to just go out.
The second rule of learning pick up is learning to only take in
high quality information. There’s a lot of keyboard jockeys out
there. Guys who sit around and can spout theory like an
encyclopedia of game, but can’t remember the last time they got laid.
You have to be super careful about who you listen to,especially on
message boards. It’s a good idea to research who you are learning
from. Make sure that they have a track record not only of success
for themselves but for their students as well.
Stay away from reading sales letters and marketing hype about
what a product will do for you, and instead look at the reviews
of that product on public forums like These:
The Attraction Forums & The Pick Up Artist Forums
I post daily on both sites as well as many other talented
dating coaches such as AFC Adam, Gambler, Savoy, Brad P and more.
The next rule of learning is the rule of small chunks. When you
first find this stuff, it can be overwhelming as there are
literally hundreds of thousands of pages on pick up theory ranging
from dealing with self esteem issues to sexual techniques. With so
much out there, it can be tempting to want to read up on all of it
at once. The thinking being that if you can learn everything you’ll
be equipped for every situation and have perfect game!
Unfortunately life doesn’t work like that. Despite the awesome
power of the human brain we can only process and digest a small
amount of information at a time. This number reduces even further
when the information that we are taking in is counter intuitive to
our already existing belief structures. That’s where the idea of
small chunking comes in to play. You have to be able to break all
the information down into small bite sized chunks that you can
implement. So how do we do that? I’m glad you asked, we do this by
focusing on learning one skill at a time and practicing that one
skill until we have it mastered, before moving on.
In the beginning this can be something as simple as making and
holding eye contact. Instead of reading up on how to make
“seductive” or “hypnotic” eye contact, you read some basic bullet
points and head out. Then you practice making and holding eye
contact with people until the field tells you you’re doing it
correctly. Girls will give you the best pick up advice, as long as
you watch what they react to, instead of what they say. Once you’ve
got that down, you move on to the next small thing. Remember
learning pick up is like eating an elephant you can only eat one
bite at a time.
The fourth rule of learning pick up is learning to be completely
honest with yourself. I often say on bootcamps that one of the
biggest difference between the guys who get good and the guys who
don’t is honesty. You have to be able to look at yourself and
realize that some parts of your personality are not helpful and
need to change, if you want more success with women. Some guys
decide that they don’t care enough to change and that’s ok too.
Just don’t come on one of my bootcamps.
The fifth and final rule of learning pick up is learning to focus
only on that which is within your control. In psychology they talk
a lot about internal vs external loci of control. The idea
behind the fancy terms being that there are some things you can
control and others you cannot.In pick up almost everything is a
variable. In fact the only things you can control are yourself and your
reactions to situations. So you are constantly faced with choices.
You can either approach the girl or stand by the bar. One of these
actions brings you closer to your goal the other doesn’t. But it is
a choice. You have to stop worrying about whether or not the girls
will like you, if there’s going to be a guy in the group, etc…
Because you can’t control it. In fact the more you resist things
that are out of control, the more discomfort you create for
yourself and the further out of state and into your head you go.
Learn to ask yourself ” What do I have control of in this
situation” and ” What do I want the outcome to be here?” Those two
questions should bring you back to right action.
Simply following these five rules will put you leaps and bounds
ahead of most guys who are learning this stuff. I’m currently
putting together a completely free report on why 90% of guys in the
community don’t improve, so be on the look out for that next month
sometime.
Till next time,
S
